tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post2357304021669431134..comments2023-12-28T11:27:12.248-06:00Comments on The Art of Being Conflicted: Repeats and Do-OversCperzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09062444081488414888noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-72541017120947406502012-03-22T12:51:59.052-05:002012-03-22T12:51:59.052-05:00#9 should be tattooed on everyone's brain. Wor...#9 should be tattooed on everyone's brain. Words to live by for sure.Bodaciousboomerhttp://www.bodaciousboomer.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-39855763789334433872012-03-21T21:29:23.652-05:002012-03-21T21:29:23.652-05:00You are right about hindsight. Even looking at li...You are right about hindsight. Even looking at life in the rear view mirror is tricky. We all seem to have different versions (memories) of how events unfolded. By the time we have learned a lesson it is past the point of handling it correctly. Ahhh, the circle of life.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-46186971123820955352012-03-21T13:34:49.925-05:002012-03-21T13:34:49.925-05:00Ha. Hindsight is 20/20, but what we get in our mat...Ha. Hindsight is 20/20, but what we get in our mature years, aside from reconciling w/past mistakes, is a very sharp insight--which very few, if any, 16 year old selves could possibly have. Those young years are precisely for making mistakes. And if we're lucky enough to live through them all, well, at least we can look back at our 16 years old selves and say, <em>Damn, I had a helluva time</em> making those mistakes. <br /><br />Then, of course, we mustn't ever stop having a helluva time. ;)Jayne Gnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-14824022813469014062012-03-21T08:22:25.066-05:002012-03-21T08:22:25.066-05:00Thank you, Bud. I would be interested in your lis...Thank you, Bud. I would be interested in your list of what you would say to you 16 year old self. Yesterday, I downloaded the book that was released last year that started this theme, Dear Me by Joseph Galliano. The book is comprised of 75 letters from asst. celebrities, authors, musicians etc. on what they would say. Seemingly no two people look at this question in quite the same way. Again...I would be really interested in yours.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-17589218757016545002012-03-21T01:34:24.560-05:002012-03-21T01:34:24.560-05:00I love this post. it's exactly the kind of po...I love this post. it's exactly the kind of post I like to write. If it wasn't so late, I'd offer a few of my own. Somewhere down in the bowels of my blog, I probably already have. Thanks.oldereyesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-84614063454648419632012-03-20T21:38:11.899-05:002012-03-20T21:38:11.899-05:00I think for some people it might serve them well t...I think for some people it might serve them well to not think about mortality and they should feel fearless when they are 16. <br /><br /> But if my older self was going to be helpful to my 16 year old self she would have issued a warning to get things wrapped up. I had already lost a parent by that time. With one parent left, I probably needed a bit of a push to remind me to keep the lines of communication open and work on keeping connected. As it turned out my remaining parent died young and suddenly. I don't feel like I said or did all the things that I woulda', coulda' shoulda' said or done.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-86030719412791918372012-03-20T21:11:03.931-05:002012-03-20T21:11:03.931-05:00I would love to see a post from you on this subjec...I would love to see a post from you on this subject. Just that little bit was so fun to read. Funny stuff.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-70300604196865106542012-03-20T21:09:55.268-05:002012-03-20T21:09:55.268-05:00I think I would want to go back for a visit to var...I think I would want to go back for a visit to various stages of my life if such a thing were possible. As it is not, I have to accept all the things that I have no power to change. I always wonder about people that say they have NO regrets. Either they are really callous or have cause to be canonized. I agree with you maybe the best we can do is reflect on our past mistakes and try hard not to repeat.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-12853852737496694232012-03-20T21:06:33.528-05:002012-03-20T21:06:33.528-05:00Are you serious, all your posts are soooo entertai...Are you serious, all your posts are soooo entertaining. Love them!!! Silly girl!!!Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-24895068979460191262012-03-20T20:37:51.262-05:002012-03-20T20:37:51.262-05:00#3 for sure. And #6... well, I don't think I w...#3 for sure. And #6... well, I don't think I would want to know about the coming losses. They were bad enough without knowing they were coming. I don't think I could have prepared for them any better. In fact, knowing I was going to face some monumental losses might have made me scared to live any life at all. And with that, I realize I haven't taken enough risks because while there has been monumental loss there hasn't been much of it.redheadrantinghttp://www.redheadranting.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-75578816479651672682012-03-20T20:31:59.884-05:002012-03-20T20:31:59.884-05:00Oh what I'd tell my 16 year old self... Grundg...Oh what I'd tell my 16 year old self... Grundge isn't a permanant style, Nirvana will fade away while classics like Bob Dylan, Billy Holiday, and Bob Marley will become some of your favorites. You will love being on the water. After 27 you will actually get better at playing sports. Take it easy on the underage drinking, it's way better in a pub. Smoking in the High School bathroom isn't a claim to fame, but lung cancer in the waiting and you will respect that soon.<br /><br />Great post!<br />--TrinaTrinahttp://trina.blogdumps.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-84102927122638352332012-03-20T20:26:15.433-05:002012-03-20T20:26:15.433-05:00Hi Cheryl,
Yes, there's really no reason to w...Hi Cheryl,<br /><br />Yes, there's really no reason to wish or want to go back and try to redo things or change the way things happened. It is what it is. But, it doesn't hurt to reflect on what one has done in the past to make life better and help make good decisions in the future.<br /><br />Clicks!<br />WolfWolfbernzhttp://wolfbernz.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-58427057729563183432012-03-20T19:29:58.664-05:002012-03-20T19:29:58.664-05:00Oh, I am so glad you decided not to scrap this! It...Oh, I am so glad you decided not to scrap this! It's fantastic and now I feel kind of silly about my post. Your words are not just good advice for your 16 year old self, but for anyone at any age. And thank you for the nice things you wrote about me... the cheque is in the mail. :-)Nickyhttp://www.weworkforcheese.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-47754952224102695832012-03-20T18:36:53.977-05:002012-03-20T18:36:53.977-05:00I certainly wouldn't listen to ANY adult when ...I certainly wouldn't listen to ANY adult when I was 16.meleahrebeccahhttp://mommamiameaculpa.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-11210920348543170992012-03-20T17:01:05.790-05:002012-03-20T17:01:05.790-05:00I think most people would say they would change mu...I think most people would say they would change much even if given the chance. I think I might have. I was pretty much on my own by then and I think I would have loved some input by an adult.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-59578495791545708832012-03-20T16:59:39.286-05:002012-03-20T16:59:39.286-05:00I would hope that I would pay attention to my olde...I would hope that I would pay attention to my older self. I had my head in the clouds, thinking that I had my life all mapped out and it would be perfect.Cheryl P.http://artofbeingconflicted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-62750579391733064242012-03-20T13:30:43.438-05:002012-03-20T13:30:43.438-05:00I also liked your list, especially the things I sh...I also liked your list, especially the things I should have invested in, but the sixteen year old Chubby Chatterbox was not inclined to accepting advice any more than the current one is. Unfortunate, but there you have it.Thechubbychatterboxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8740338215172190519.post-20847464294533641182012-03-20T13:02:53.091-05:002012-03-20T13:02:53.091-05:00I loved your list of things you'd tell your 16...I loved your list of things you'd tell your 16 year old self! Well done! Well done indeed.meleahrebeccahhttp://mommamiameaculpa.comnoreply@blogger.com