Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Broken Cookies

For all the readers that have been following my blog, you know that I struggle with being conflicted on nearly every subject.  Given that nearly any subject can have alternating points of view and I clearly have two opposing sides to my personality...there is ALWAYS  a "glass half  empty, glass half full kind of conflict in play.

Thought #1-----I am a "broken cookie" person

No...I am not broken ....nor am a a giant human cookie.  Here's the deal...

I was watching a movie the other day where one of the character described herself as the "broken cookie" person.  She explained that if presented with a plate of cookies, she would not take the nice round cookie on the top that was perfect....but instead she would take the broken, less than perfect cookie.  Her reasoning was that she was undeserving of the best cookie. 

I totally related to that.  I would take the broken cookie. That is so me. HOWEVER,  I don't attribute it to me feeling that I don't deserve the best.  DESERVE is a strong word.  I don't know that I deserve anything more or less than the next guy.  To me it will taste the same and I don't care, need, require or desire the perfect one. 

 I am not just saying I would be fine and be all martyr-like, I mean I am really, sincerely FINE with it.   The fact is that there are others that really, really, NEED that perfect cookie. Let them have it.  Perhaps their self worth is linked to it or perhaps they just feel entitled to it...either way they need it.

So whether you are a "broken cookie person" or a "perfect cookie person" OR a "pound dog person" or a "pedigree dog person", there isn't a right and a wrong so much as recognizing your motivation for wanting what you want.

There is a warning that comes with being a  "broken cookie person".  While I am more than willing to take the Christmas tree with the flat side or the slightly over done piece of toast, ...there are times that you just have to insist that the cookie is right.  The time I had a surgery and they took out the wrong part....I really should have INSISTED that I got the perfect cookie.  Sometimes, it is crucial that you receive the best cookie.

Thought #2....If I baked the cookies, I wouldn't want anyone to have to take a broken cookie.

However, if I am not on the receiving end but the "offering" end of this cookie situation, I want everyone to have perfect cookies.  I would hate that you would be put into the position of being the "broken cookie person".  If you had Mickey Mouse pancakes at my house, I want it to have two cute ears AND I would want you to have whipped butter and warm syrup.  See the conflict here.  I am fine at being the broken cookie person but I never want you to have to be the broken cookie person if I have the control to prevent it.

OK...Maybe I am broken.

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Thechubbychatterbox said...

This problem doesn't exist if you assume you're going to eat all of the cookies anyway. Of course this just prompts a different problem.

Cheryl P. said...

What a great response. I always find typing LOL as the lazy way to let someone know that you think they are clever but really, I laughed...out loud yet.

I guess the question of whether you are the "broken cookie person" may be less relevant if you are planning on eating both the broken and unbroken cookies but are you also a "very self-aware" kind of guy? Do you need the cookies, desire the cookies or or you entitled to all the cookies?

meleahrebeccah said...

I totally get the Broken Cookie too. And you're right "deserve" really IS a strong word.

PS: I love that photo & that quote from The Opportunist!

Trina said...

As the eater, the look of the cookie never bothers me, it's all about flavor.

As the giver, I eat all the ugly cookies so no one else need to see them LOL

I've never really heard of the Broken Cookie theory, but it does have a little merit I suppose, but you are right - Deserve is a strong word and everyone deserves to believe that they deserve to have the beautiful cookie.


Cheryl P. said...

Not only do I lean toward the broken cookie, I am such a snot that I sometimes want to smack the hand of the person making a grab for the biggest and best cookie because they think they derserve it more than everyone else.

Cheryl P. said...

Same here. I don't put any stock into how the cookie looks, it's the taste that counts.
I, also, would gobble up my mistakes if I were the baker, only to leave the pretty cookies for my guests.

I, also agree that people need to think they derserve the unbroken cookie but just to the extent that they recognize that other people deserve it equally.

meleahrebeccah said...

Oh I think you SHOULD slap that hand!

oldereyes said...

Aren't you in a philosophical mood today? Maybe it's different for men, but I can't imagine caring if the cookie is broken or not. have you ever heard of a missing tile person? That's someone who looks a beautiful mosaic ceiling and notices the one missing tile. I have a tendency to be that guy if I don't watch myself.


Cheryl P. said...

Hah, as philosophical as one can be while talking about broken cookies.

You make a really interesting point. There probably is a gender bias in the broken cookie theory. I bet your right that most men might not care or notice. Of course, if I used the example of a dented truck in my metaphor, perhaps that would change the whole dynamic.

I am not surprised that you would notice the tile as your line of work is uber detailed. I would never notice the tile as I would be awash in "OMG that is so beautiful. However, if I was looking at a house to list, I would notice the brand of toothpaste left on the counter and the popped nail head on the ceiling in the foyer. Funny how our judgemental sides are peaked according to our interests and professions.

My husband would have also noticed the missing tile.

Bodaciousboomer said...

Broken , perfect, who cares? It's a COOKIE.:)

As for you, you deserve only the perfect cookies in the world my young friend.

Jayne said...

I would take the broken cookie because I would feel sorry for it and be afraid it wouldn't get picked and get its feelings hurt.

Cheryl P. said...

Your right of course. No cookie would be safe around here very long. I might start with the broken cookie but if the perfect cookie lingered too long...it's a goner.

I don't know that I deserve the perfect cookie but that was a kind thing to say. I am touched.

Cheryl P. said...

That sounds so much like me, Jayne. I am a sucker for the underdog. Poor thing...whatever it is...needs me.

L.C. Griffith said...

Cheryl, I'll take the broken cookie only if others are watching, after all, I don't want to seem greedy or persnickety, besides, who cares right? But, if I'm alone, I will pick the biggest fattest nuttiest most chocolate chippy cookie in the pile!! Yum!

I have something for you over at my blog. Would you mind picking it up;)

Cheryl P. said...

Ha ha, you are so right! It would definitely make a difference if people were looking on. I would still take the broken one first but no plate of cookies would be safe, if I was alone. The broken and the whole ones would be gone in short order.

Thank you for thinking of me. I just jumped over to your site as I couldn't wait to see what was going on . I will work on thinking of 5 others that fit the criteria. You are such a good blogger friend!!!

Nicky said...

Now I really want a cookie. I must admit, I've never given the matter any thought. Probably because I have 15 million kids and I'm just lucky if I get the cookie crumbs at the bottom of the bag.