A. I might not be a perfect match if either of them needed a kidney. Still, if they needed one, I would go get tested. I would not give them both kidneys even though I would want to.
B. They don't have all the collective baggage resulting from the in-family fights and who-said -what-to-whom, so they can hold a long term grudge.
C. They laugh at my jokes. (safe to say my family thinks I am more weird than funny)
D. They are open to the fact that I walk "kind-of-sort-of" in the middle as far as politics go. (which is to say socially liberal, fiscally conservative) (Note: if any of my "faithful-to-their-party" relatives are reading this...relax, take a deep breath)
E. These friends don't have to attend family events but they would be welcome.
F. They are supportive of my habit of using 4 letter words.
The reason, I am even talking about FRIENDS this morning is that I am a tad concerned that the word "friend" is being made more and more insignificant as it is routinely applied to everyone you come into contact with. It is diminished by it's over use.
Let's start with Facebook. Oh no...don't you jump to the conclusion that I am a hater. I AM NOT!!!! I think Facebook has it's place. I do. Reconnecting with old friends and following the "out of area" people that are in your life...great. Trying to re-establish a connection with the friends that you should have done a better job staying connected to....PERFECT. I am all for it. But...and you knew there would be a BUT in here....
Facebook's use, in a lot of cases, is less about connecting with true friends and is more about
networking, advertising, posting personal preferences on what you think every one else should believe, and all manner of "less than friendly" purposes.
Still, for those of you that use it to support and console others, put funny clever little things on status updates (that would be of interest to anyone other than yourself), send out holiday and birthday wishes and the like...rah, rah for you. No harm in any of that. The harm is when you put all your energy into thinking every person that you ask to be your friend is in the same group that would give you the aforementioned kidney.
Which leads me to another matter of great importance. As I do like to see what clever little jokes, posters, anecdotes are posted on Facebook AND I find those clever one-liner Tweets on Twitter a absolute hoot...perhaps I have been negligent by not responding often enough. Are there people out there that are losing sleep over un-acknowledged comments on my wall. I wouldn't want to force someone into seeking a psychiatrist because I am not being a good friend or follower.
Same goes for my blog friends...when I get busy and get behind reading blogs, does that mean I get assigned to the "BAD FRIEND" crowd? I hope not. If I don't agree with every thing you post, do you mentally unfriend me? Again, I hope not.
|This isn't exactly|
what I look like
So here it is my friends....
For my blogging friends, I may or may not always agree with you but love reading your point of view just the same. I would like to think we would remain friends if we met in person.
To my face-to-face friends, do you need my kidney?
Just a little poem about the little nuances of being a friend:
It's just the little homey things,
The unobtrusive, friendly things,
The won't-you-let-me-help-you things
That make our pathway light,
It's just the jolly, joking things,
The laugh-with-me, it's funny" things,
That make the world seem bright.
For all the countless famous things,
The wondrous, record-breaking things,
Those "never-can-be-equalled" things
That all the papers cite,
Aren't like the little human things,
The everyday-encounter things,
The "just-because-I-like-you" things,
That make us happy quite.
So here's to all the simple things,
The dear "all-in-a-day's-work" things,
The "smile-and-face-your-troubles" things,
Trust God to put them right!
The "done-and-then-forgotten" things,
The "can't-you-see-I-love-you" things,
The hearty "I-am-with-you" things,
That make life worth the fight.